I'm not a feminist lesbian. I adore men, but I don't think they are all created equal. Or maybe they're just not raised to be equal. The point is this: some of them are less adorable than others. The trouble at the moment is I don't stand for sexism, (certain forms of) weakness, dishonesty, or willful ignorance/stupidity. Unfortunately, there has been a peripheral male in my life who exhibits some, if not all, of these qualities, though I'm not sure which.
Thankfully, I've never met this... guy. He's just damaging people I care about.
So I'm going to simply put down in words some things I believe to be true that relate to this... guy:
- If you put it on the internet, it is public information. No one is invading your privacy by reading it. Everyone knows that, save maybe the elderly and the very young. We are the internet generation. I've had a computer since I was first learning to spell (maybe before that) and I have long known the rules of the internet. Also, I know you're not an idiot
- If he/she only wants to be with you on his/her whim, he/she is a waste of your time. It has been my personal experience that people need to trust and rely on each other. If your partner is only available when he/she wants you and not when you want him/her... tell your partner to fuck right off and see what happens. THAT is when you will see if they actually care. Don't try to MAKE it work, because I guarantee you're not going to want to continue MAKING it work for the rest of your life. How long can you hold that burden?
- Babies are more important than men, or women for that matter. Additionally, they're a huge and long-term obligation. You're in it or you're not, and either one is fine. You do not have the "fair-weather-father" option, so make up your mind. Pregnant women are fragile and panicked, especially when its their first. Pick your pregnant ex, or your other ex (you know: the one who's still in love with her cheating husband). Don't be impulsive. Don't be a dick. Besides, you're better off being alone (or castrated) than behaving the way you currently are.
- Honesty is far more fruitful than temporarily attempting to save your ass (and you're a terrible liar). I'm not sure if you're maliciously fabricating stories with the intention of continuing to philander or if you're simply too weak to be honest to a couple of women. I'm not sure if I care. Either one is incredibly unbecoming. Maybe you just want to avoid hurting these fragile ladies... maybe. That's the best scenario I can conjure up. But it still leaves you far outside the modern era, and weak. We're strong these days and most of us would rather hear the truth now than figure it out on our own later. And finding out later does significantly more damage. If you can't take the fiery anger of a couple of women, you should probably off yourself now. The world is full of us because men like you have been stepping all over us for far too long.
Don't worry too much about your pregnant ex girlfriend. I'll be there for her because I love her and support her. I always have. She'll be fine, even though she doesn't always believe that to be true. Worry, instead, about growing a spine (or, if you prefer the analogous colloquialism: a pair of balls). Your life will suck until you do.
